Managing Your Move to or in Denver: Expectations vs. Reality--Part 102/18/2018Moving is the adult equal of elementary school—everybody is very gungho about the thought, but it's only the ones with sensible expectations who wind up having a trouble-free move. Yes, it is a new abode, a new beginning, and the opportunity of a wonderful new life--but once that last empty truck leaves and you are standing there in the middle of your boxes, you have still got to do the real work. Managing your move with realistic expectations is fundamental to starting that new life on the right foot--and that equates to not only accepting the fact that a new home won't wondrously melt off the twenty pounds you want to lose, but that moving is emotionally difficult even in the best circumstances and you and your family should allocate the time and space to accept that. One of the odd things about a local move--new abode, neighborhoods, schools--is that can be tougher on the children than a long-distance relocation. A new house in another state eliminates the constant requests to go hang with their friends in the old neighborhood, and it may be less difficult to adopt a new life and new friends when your old ones are in a different time zone. But back to the main point. There are three Ps when it comes to managing your move to or in Denver--Purge, Pack, and Pay. What you don't purge has to be packed, and the more you pack, the more you will pay. Expectation—I will sort through old stuff and only save what I love. Reality--you love a lot more than you think you do. No matter if you take care of your own packing or employ professional movers, you've got to select what is worth the time and money to pack and move. Purge Purging is one of those strange phrases you do not hear a lot, at least in a good implication. However, getting rid of the old baggage is one of the smartest ways that you can let your new residence to bestow your expectations of wonderful. There are hundreds of rules and suggestions to assist you in figuring out the best approaches to sort through your old possessions, from practical--"if you haven't used/worn it in a year get rid of it"; to a tad off-the-wall--"toss all your negative energy out with the old towels". At its basic level, purging is basically going through all the cabinets, closets and drawers and constructing three piles: keep, toss, donate. Or you could have four piles if you have got a lot of nice things that you do not want anymore, and consign those things. A difficult thing about purging is keeping up the detachment it requires to be ruthless about tossing items. If you saved all those pre-school paintings, how can you get rid of them and be a good parent? Here is a tip—appoint a friend to assist you to go through things and talk you through why you're keeping items that are really better out of the house. Having someone else ask you out loud why you want to keep the 1980s cassette tapes does put things in relative importance and you will have a less difficult time growing the get-rid-of pile if you've got someone to reinforce your decisions. If your significant other is the one with the hoarder impulses, here is a tip for helping an unwilling participant part with their treasures. Think small, and begin with the kitchen junk drawers, try to limit handling of old matchbooks and broken screwdrivers to one time only and progressively build to more important things, like collections (for instance, choose two or three porcelain bunnies and donate or consign the rest). Catch up us next time as we go over managing your move subjects: Pack and Pay, in Part 2 of this blog series.