Managing Your Move to or in Denver: Expectations vs. Reality--Part 102/18/2018Moving is the adult equal of high school—everybody is very gungho about the idea, but it's only the ones with sensible expectations who wind up having a trouble-free move. Yes, it is a new home, a new beginning, and the opportunity of a awesome new life--but once that last empty truck leaves and you are standing there amidst your boxes, you have still got to do the actual work. Managing your move with realistic expectations is essential to starting that new life on the right foot--and that equates to not only accepting the fact that a new abode won't wondrously melt off the twenty pounds you want to lose, but that moving is emotionally difficult even in the best circumstances and you and your family should allocate the time and space to accept that. One of the odd things about a local move--new home, neighborhoods, schools--is that can be tougher on the children than a long-distance relocation. A new house across the country eliminates the constant requests to go visit their friends in the old neighborhood, and it may be less difficult to welcome a new life and new friends when your old ones are in a different time zone. But back to the topic. There are three Ps involved with managing your move to or in Denver--Purge, Pack, and Pay. What you don't purge has to be packed, and the more you pack, the more you will pay. Expectation—I will sort through old stuff and only save what I love. Reality--you love a lot more than you think you do. No matter if you handle your own packing or appoint professionals, you've got to select what is worth the time and money to take with you. Purge Purging is one of those strange phrases you do not hear all the time, at least in a positive implication. But really, getting rid of the old baggage is one of the smartest ways that you can let your new residence to bestow your expectations of wonderful. There are lots and lots of guidelines and suggestions to assist you in figuring out the best approaches to sort through your old possessions, from practical--"if you haven't used/worn it in a year get rid of it"; to a bit off-the-wall--"toss all your negative energy out with the old towels". At its basic level, purging is basically picking through all the cabinets, closets and drawers and making three piles: keep, toss, donate. Or you could have four piles if you have got a lot of nice things that you do not want anymore, and consign those things. A difficult thing about purging is retaining the detachment you need to be ruthless about tossing items. If you saved all those pre-school paintings, how can you get rid of them and be a good parent? Here is a tip—appoint a friend to assist you to go through things and talk you through why you're saving items that are really better out of the house. Having someone else ask you out loud why you want to hang on to the 1980s cassette tapes does put things in relative importance and you will have an easier time growing the toss pile if you've got someone to reinforce your decisions. If your partner is the one with the hoarder tendencies, here is a suggestion for helping an unenthusiastic participant part with their treasures. Think small, and commence with the kitchen junk drawers, try to limit handling of old matchbooks and broken screwdrivers to one time only and steadily make your way to bigger possessions, like collections (for instance, choose two or three porcelain bunnies and donate or consign the rest). Join us next time as we go over managing your move subjects: Pack and Pay, in Part 2 of this blog series.